Stress Managment :New ways of being

Guys here I am providing the good example for How to remove the stress its all nothing but the stress management …. Work out on it ! Definitely it will work for u. u can do wonders …thunders
It’s a real time experience for me /

A lecturer of mine (during engineering days ) when explaining stress management to me and my friends , Raised a glass of water and asked "How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out from us was ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.,If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry out burdens all the time, sooner or later, As the burden becomes increasingly heavy, We won't be able to carry on." "As with the glass of water, You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden." "So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, Let them down for a moment if you can." So, my friends , Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don't pick it up again until after you've rested a while.

How Can You Prevent Anxiety?

Distress and anxiety are believed by the medical profession to be the most ongoing illness of our time. The fear of developing heart problems or cancer alone is enough to cause tremendous stress and accompanying depression. There is a tremendous malaise circulating our world today. Both the medical profession and the media are constantly "threatening" us of the dangers and probabilities of incomparable diseases, some of which seem numerous than likely to shorten our life span. For illustration, if there is cancer in your family, you're most likely going to get it! And of course, if cancer is not threat enough there is always the West Nile virus, Bird flu, AIDs and a host of other diseases to frighten us...

One thing is for sure, we will never hear the end of calamities that are likely to beset us, whether from infirmity or some other form of challenge we may face. It seems inevitable that there will always be something that will get our blood pressure soaring.So, what is the answer to this quandary? How can we carry-on with our lives without being constantly afraid and anxious of what lies around the next corner? Here are several suggestions about how to effectively deal with life's challenging situations:

1) Obtain interpersonal supportPeople need other people, and there are bountious splendid and practical ways to relieve stress and anxiety. Exercise, positive nutrition and certain thinking are tremendous antidotes. These not only a remedy to relieve the angst; they actually give us a sense of empowerment over our lives.

2) Pursue spiritual guidance about spoken wordsThe Bible tells us that the power of life and casualty are in the tongue. Words can both bless and curse (James 3). Negative words can evoke fear, anxiety and actually produce negative effects in a person's life.Whenever a word is heard - any word - the mind paints a picture of it. For exemplification, when someone says "black cow" immediately you will see that cow in your mind's eye. Although words are not tangible, they have the power to bring about temperamental and tangible change! Remember - The Bible teaches that the earth was created by the Word of God! Now that's real word power!We all have a choice when it comes to listening and what we hear. We can determine to empower ourselves by listening to certain words and encouraging thoughts or we can do otherwise. Think about the last time you listening to some of your favored music. Did your feet start tapping? Did you start to hum the melody? Didn't your mood lighten-up a bit as a aftereffect of hearing the melody and the words? Negative words almost always produce negative results, whether apparent or lurking. On the other hand, certain words instill a sense of well-being. A mere smile and a swift, jolly-sounding, "Have a great day!" can instantly produce admirable feelings and joy.

3) Develop a "gratitude" attitude.Thankfulness is one of the greatest virtues. A clever man once said that if we divided a page in two and wrote all our setbacks on one side and all our blessings on the other, we would obtain that the blessings far outweigh the negatives. The Bible teaches us to give thanks with a grateful heart for all things. Don't look back on past hurts, nor fret about tomorrow. Live each day to the fullest to determine joy and thankfulness.In conclusion, remember that our thoughts respond to what we feed the mind through our senses. Therefore, it naturally follows that content is a choice. This may be a foreign brainchild to quite a few of us initially, but when applied, the results can be truly amazing! Break the habit of feeling trapped in a world of negative thoughts and anxiety and form opinions to switch-on the power of affirmative thoughts today!

Science behind positive thinking

I have always been reading and hearing people saying “Think positive” . Yes I do think positive but I never knew the exact reason why one shud think positive. I think positive because it makes me feel better. This is how I look at it. Suppose there are two people aspiring to reach their destinations. THey both start at a point A and have to get to point B. One of them is very positive about the results and the other one is all pessimistic about the results. In most of the cases we spend like 90% of the time to get to the destination and stay at the destination for like 10% of the time and then the next journey begins. One who is thinking positive about the destination is all happy during the journey. His mind just knows that it will gets what it wants. He is cheerful all the time. The negative person is continously telling himself “i wont be able to get to the destination, there are so many problems in life , Life sucks”. At this point none of them knws for sure whether they will get to their destination. But the positive person had made 90% of his life already HAPPY . It doesnt matter whether he will get to the destination, he has already succeeded. Lets see how Mr Negative is doing . He is thinking only about negative things. His 90% of life is already screwed thinking crap and negative thoughts about the destination. Now even if he gets to his destination, he is a failure. So by thinking positive you can surely make 90% of your life better if not 100%.I knew all this but what I didn’t know was the Law Of Affinity, which says similar incidents attract each other. One who is thinking positive is attracting only positive incidents like meeting some nice peple on the way, beautiful things and more learning. This negative person is having all negative thoughts and attracting similar negative incidents like flat tire, accidents and other unpleasant events which makes his belief stronger that Life sucks.

Sometimes I used to have arguments with some pessimist people . They would say that I think positive because my life has been full of positive events and I havnt seen many hardships in my life. They think negative because of what they have seen in their lives. People have left comments on one of the posts saying the same thing. I used to think “Yes they are right. Probably I have seen mostly positive things in my life so I am a positive person” . Now I realize that I was not thinking positive because positive things happen in my life instead I think positive so I attract positive incidents and life has been all full of positive events. Either the incident was positive or my way of looking at it was positive. Both the things make life beautiful. Everybody gets his share of problems and happiness. But when we face some problem in life like loss of job, loss of a dear one and we continuously think of these negative events of our life we are indeed attracting more such negative incidents making our life worse. This is the reason that people who crib like ” I have no money, I dont have a good job , my life sucks , my partner doesnt love me ” continue to attract negative incidents and continue to crib throughout their lives.

This is not some philosphy but there is whole science behind this law of affinity. I dont want to stretch this post but the words you say has lotta impact on how you feel and what incidents you are attracting. You have no idea how much power the words you speak have. When you say “I m tired ” , that itself saps off your energy. When you says “Not doing grt man ” , smile goes off fro your face .When you say “Life sucks” , it indeed start sucking. When I say “Life is Beautiful” , it INDEED becomes beautiful.

Even today I cant think of ONE GOOD REASON why one should think negative or say negative words. For some people positive thinking comes naturally but other can always and always make concious effort to think positive and hence make life more beautiful.
Life is beautiful and will always be Happy !!

How to Manage Your Team in a Downturn (and Come Out on Top)

Layoffs have truncated staff; cost-cutting measures are threatening projects, and morale is in the toilet. From the manager’s perspective, getting the most out of employees in this kind of environment can seem like a Sisyphean task. In fact, it’s a perfect opportunity to rejigger processes and fix what’s broken — and managers are uniquely positioned to do just that. Here’s how being candid with your employees, rewarding them in creative ways, and enlisting them to help make hard decisions can not only keep your team motivated but pull your company out of its slump.



Things you will need:



· Any additional cash that can be set aside to reward the top-performing members on your team.

· Constant attention. It’s your sole task right now to improve the mood in the office so that everyone can get back to work.

· Informal Meetings: Give employees frequent opportunities to openly discuss — and ask questions about — the business situation the company is facing.

· Employee Buy-In: Now is the time to leverage the expertise of your team. Motivate and engage employees by including them in the problem-solving process.

· Transparency: The middle manager plays a crucial role in communicating messages from senior leadership. Maintain loyalty from direct reports by giving them what they deserve: honest explanations for what went wrong and how the company plans to move forward.

Set the Tone

Goal: Lower the anxiety level in the office by being candid about the challenges — and opportunities — ahead.

It’s easy to blame the economy for all the reasons a company is suffering: Customers are cutting back on their expenses, advertisers are trimming their budgets, and stock prices are sliding. These problems may, in fact, be attributable in part to the downturn, but going with the “It’s the economy, stupid” defense sends a subtle but potentially dangerous message to employees: It implies that the situation is totally out of the company's hands and left in large part to fate. This is exactly the kind of attitude that raises anxiety levels in the office and disrupts employees’ focus on the problem at hand: turning business around.

“Have the confidence to not completely blame the economy,” says Stanford business professor Bob Sutton. “If employees believe that leadership can break things, they’ll believe that leadership can fix things, too.”

Don’t just rely on the CEO’s message. An e-mail from the top explaining why the company is in the red can’t tell employees much, which means mid-level managers need to be the interpreters. Speak to employees in small groups and be as candid as possible about where the company stands. This is also a good time to suss out any rumors. “Organize quick events to ask what people have heard and to answer any questions they have,” says Dave Logan, a senior partner at Los Angeles-based consulting firm Culture Sync.

Open the books. Giving employees the numbers behind company performance clarifies where the business needs to change and how their jobs connect to the bigger picture. But be warned: “If you’re going to be transparent, take the necessary time to teach employees about how the business works,” says Rich Armstrong, general manager of the Great Game of Business, a coaching firm that teaches open-book management. He advises managers to start with what employees probably already understand, like operational numbers, and then connect the dots with how those numbers increase gross margin and generate cash flow. Above all, keep finance jargon to a minimum.

Focus on the future. There’s no need to sugarcoat it: Pulling the company through the downturn isn’t going to be easy, but emphasizing the challenge can have its benefits. “It’s a great time for [your employees] to realize that they can play a role in discovering opportunities for the company,” says Vince Thompson, a former manager at AOL and author of the book Ignited.

Hot Tip

The You in Team

If a company is going to stay resilient, the staff’s collective commitment and collaboration are essential. In this environment, simply making an effort to be more visible and available to employees can spark productivity and bring the team together.

For example, if you normally work within the confines of a walled office while your team toils away in the cube farm, grab your laptop and set up shop in a cubicle near them — even if it’s only a couple of times a week. Start showing up to the smaller meetings that you usually skip, or rearrange your travel schedule to cut down how much time you spend out of the office. In short, don’t wait for employees to take advantage of an open-door policy. Go to them first, and ask how their work is going. This isn’t about micromanaging — it’s about knowing firsthand what they need.

Enlist the Team to Fix What’s Broken

Goal: Motivate employees and find out how and where the business needs to change.

Traditionally, the top execs decide the strategy and let it trickle down. The problem with this tactic is that it rarely makes the emotional case needed to mobilize employees around a common goal, says Paul Bromfield, a principal at Katzenbach Partners, which has advised companies like Aetna, Credit Suisse, and Pfizer. “This is about problem-solving and discipline, and that’s where employees come in,” he says. “Companies should be harnessing employees in the effort to identify where to cut costs and how.”

Not only will utilizing workers’ expertise make them more invested in the company’s success, it also gives management a more honest look at what’s not working. Senior leadership tends to focus on just one area of cost-cutting, Bromfield says, like products, headcount, or moving operations off-shore. Employees, on the other hand, can use their collective wisdom to eliminate clumsy (and costly) procedures across divisions.

Here are four guidelines for involving staff in the process:

1. Identify key influencers. “If you’re really going to mobilize people, you can’t do it from the top,” Bromfield says. Find the key employees who hold sway in their departments and get them to embrace and spread the change effort. These are the people who know how things really work (not just the way they’re supposed to work) and have a way of bringing together the right people to get things done.

2. Let teams do the problem solving. Form groups around the influencers and motivate (rather than mandate) employees to identify what’s slowing down business. Often the best place to start is to look for processes and bureaucracies that annoy the team. Set a basic timeframe to achieve cost savings, but let each group work at its own pace.

3. Make it a conversation. Schedule brown-bag lunches or other informal venues to talk to employees about their findings and where they might be hitting roadblocks. In the early 1990s, Bromfield’s former client Texas Commerce Bank held focus groups with thousands of its employees to find out what procedures most frustrated bankers and customers. Using the feedback, the company nearly doubled its $50 million cost-savings goal.

4. Follow through. Many cost-savings programs fail because management implements the initiative only halfway or lets inefficiencies creep back after meeting short-term goals, which won’t sit well with employees. Adopt the changes wholesale or not at all.

Big Idea

Keep Top Performers Moving

In an ideal world, the upside of a downturn is that recruiting qualified employees becomes easier. With more candidates in the job market, now could be the time to find new talent if your company has the resources to continue hiring. But managers shouldn’t forget about the top performers already on staff, say Monster executives Steve Pogorzelski, Dr. Jesse Harriott, and Doug Hardy, authors of a recent paper on how companies should invest in employees when business slows down.

When the economy’s bad, it’s easy to think that employees are grateful to have jobs at all. But layoffs and budget cuts may cause good workers to look for better opportunities. Give them a reason to stay by making room for them to keep advancing their careers. “Keep critical talent moving — not necessarily up, but growing in experience, responsibility, money, or other tangible and intangible ways,” say the authors of the study. If promotions or raises aren’t possible, give good workers the chance to make a lateral move or to take on a struggling department.

Get Back to the Work That Matters

Goal: Make sure your team is tuned in to growth opportunities.

The problem with a downturn is that while cost cutting is absolutely necessary, it can make everyone gun-shy about pursuing new initiatives and opportunities for investment. However, if your department, and in turn the company, is going to emerge from the slump in a competitive position, there are a few key investments you can’t afford not to fight for now:

Customers

Learn about the customers of your weakest competitors, writes Michael Roberto, a blogger for Harvard Business Publishing and management professor at Bryant University. While competitors are busy shoring up their relationships with large, established clients, it could be the perfect time to swoop in and court their smaller customers.

Research and Development

Take a cue from Apple’s Steve Jobs. When asked by Fortune magazine recently about Apple’s strategy for the downturn, Jobs pointed to how the company survived the 2001 tech bust by upping its R&D budget. “It worked, and that’s exactly what we’ll do this time,” he told the magazine.

Separate the value-added activities from the wheel-spinning exercises, Thompson suggests in Ignited. Instead of giving up on new projects in a downturn, shift focus so that the team is investing time in identifying and prioritizing the projects that will generate the most benefit for the company. Even if the final product will have to wait until more resources are available, doing the legwork now means the product will go to market faster when the time is right — and employees will stay engaged in the meantime.

Vendors/Partners

“There are two ways to run a business,” says Fred Mossler, senior vice president of merchandising for online shoe retailer Zappos, “adversarily or as a partnership.” Considering that the company relies on about 1,500 partners to provide its customers with a diverse selection of shoes, Zappos has chosen the latter option. To that end, the company built an extranet, so that every partner can see how its brand is performing. “They get to see everything our buyers see,” Mossler says. “This way we have about 1,500 other sets of eyes looking at our business and helping to improve it.”

Case Study

How Zappos Survived the Tech Bust

The idea for Zappos was born in 1999, when the economy was booming. But the shoe retailer still was unprofitable and struggling to grow revenue two years later, when the recession hit. “It was impossible for us to get any additional funding,” Mossler says. To make matters worse, the company was learning that its original business plan, which made Zappos a middleman, wasn’t working as planned: Vendors didn’t always have every shoe in stock, and customers — who sometimes had to wait weeks for their orders to arrive — often ended up with the wrong orders.

Though the times might have called for belt-tightening, the company had to make a couple of very expensive decisions, both of which put long-term strategy before short-term cost cutting. First, management realized that it needed total control over the merchandise in order to give the best customer service — a decision that meant sacrificing 25 percent of company revenue. Second, to make sure customers knew exactly what they were getting, the company hired photographers to take pictures of every pair of shoes it stocked. The site now has photos of its more than 3 million items, mostly shoes, from up to eight different angles. “Most companies look at customer service as an expense, but we look at it as a long-term investment,” says Mossler. The moves paid off: Less than 10 years after its founding, Zappos is on track to bring in more than $1 billion in sales this year.

Acknowledge and Reward Deserving Employees

Goal: Recognize achievement, even if resources are scarce.

Employee bonuses and raises are among some of the first expenses that upper management cuts during a downturn. But even if extra compensation isn’t in the budget, that doesn’t excuse managers from rewarding employees. “Lack of recognition — both financially and verbally — is one of the things that does the most damage,” says David Sirota, founder of the management-consulting firm Sirota Survey Intelligence. “I worked with an investment bank some years back where bankers were earning bonuses from $100,000 to $1 million a year,” he says. “You know what they complained about? They didn’t know if the chairman thought they were actually doing a good job, because he never spoke to them about it.”



Danger! Danger! Danger!

Save Rewards for the Worthy

Keeping your employees engaged doesn’t mean rewarding them just for doing their jobs. The most effective rewards are significant but well deserved. Libby Sartain became head of Yahoo’s human resources department in 2001, just as the company received a hard knock from the dot-com bust. She decided that instead of quietly giving large bonuses to overachievers, which wasn’t providing much bang for the buck, Yahoo needed to regularly single out the top 15 to 20 stellar individuals and teams — not only to reward them, but to help the rest of the company understand what made these employees outstanding.

The following year, the company gave its first Superstar Awards. Candidates were nominated by their peers for significant achievements and awarded cash prizes ranging from $5,000 to $50,000. The Yahoo Superstar Awards program is now in its seventh year and has honored employees for contributions like creating the Panama advertising system, inventing a way to advertise on instant messages, and fixing a troublesome accounting problem. “This isn’t egalitarian, this is a meritocracy,” Sartain says, acknowledging that some managers resisted the idea at first. “When people saw the winners, they understood why they won, and it took hold and became part of the culture.”

Confessions of teens !

Compromise or sacrifice.. not too sure about which word I am supposed to use.My career does not demand lab tests or mapping. But it does require loads of mathematics,mental construction,talent and ofcourse practice. I am sure many of you might be dumbstruck by the importance of maths in music.But if anything works it's only cos of simple maths and some can even get complicated.And music is also used as a medicine.If it wasn't for my voice,I would be studying Mass Communication somewhere in this world.And today I realise my greatest asset.God gifted in other words.To be God gifted makes me feel special.Infact so special that now I have to take the responsibility of nurturing it.And here comes the worst part. Advices from seniors..boring lectures, mandatory attendance to each class. Passing phase in every life.But when I was asked to give up cold items that too stuffs like ice cream and curd I was in doubt if I was really lucky about being gifted.Then I realised that kuch paane ke liye kuch khona padta hain .So precise!And trust me this isn't a sacrifice but a compramise with God for all the success in the coming future that is awaiting me.And no, I havent given up ice creams :) but I know my limits. I had read somewhere that Rahul Dravid had to compromise on a lot of things he loved to be cricketer. That list included his best of friends.

I am sure each one of you must have compromised something or the other to gain something you have longed for.Weird is life and it's ways and so are we.One thing I am very proud of is my positive attitude towards anything.Being an optimist always keeps your mind happy and confident to face a storm.Sadly I have seen a very small count of optimists. Neverthless, in a half glass of water learn to see it half full.